Hello Alicia,
I'd be happy to talk with you through personal email. (I'll send you one first, in case you haven't figured out how to do it yet.) My husband and I are both 31 years old, and he has two discs in need of replacement. We have two baby boys, ages 6 months and one going on two years old. We tried to have Dean's surgery done in the US, but gave up waiting, and we are currently waiting for a surgery date over in Germany with Dr. Bertagnoli. Based on my research, and in my humble opinion, he is the world's best! He now works out of the Alphaklinik, and great facilities in Bogen and Straubing Germany. We were also financially challanged in this situation, so I can tell you what options we came up with to pay, etc. We are bringing our babies over to Germany, as well as both Grandmas to serve as babysitters. We thought that would be a logistical nightmare, but it's quite do-able. You're not alone, you'll find lots of friends and information here!
-Kim