Hi Lydia, welcome to our community. Like almost everyone here, you've been through the meatgrinder...so sorry but welcome.
Grumpy makes some interesting points. However, not all people in this community get surgery. In fact, most here -- if not everyone -- tries to avoid it!
There are some glimmers of hope on the horizon for biologics' solutions and even antimicrobial solutions that have helped some people in this global community avoid surgery.
So, that said, what two or three questions can we help you with right now?
PS: Yes, please keep your head. We have a few "Pez" ladies on this forum.
