James, no worries...your post is not long at all! Sorry about these issues; they are tough for sure. Did your PC doc impress upon you the gravity of the situation? Refer you to a doc in urology and/or neurology? You may be able to find a doctor that that specializes in both fields -- but a uro doc may be a good consult for you now?! Let us know what's next, as this is serious business.
PS: There's a urology center in New London, maybe that's not to far from you.
PSS: Congrats on taking the smoking cessation step! That's huge! Keep going!